UltraVNC

...but the second link is really good....

...Still, it doesn't indicate there's any way to control the order in which applications are shut down. Although the order of things shutting down isn't controllable, from my limited (progamming novice) understanding of that document it appears that ...

I just got caught out by the same issue when remotely rebooting an old Windows 2000 box (using UVNC server 1.0.8.2); something hung on shutdown and Windows was showing the "terminate application now" box.

But the UltraVNC server had already shut down...or at least was was trying to shut down; error ...